He & Late Wife Never Argued

I am a 57 year old female. I have been married/divorced twice. I have three grown children. Two years after my divorce I started dating. I began introducing myself to men online and one man stood out in particular so I agreed to have lunch with him. We shared a two hour lunch where I talked too much and his hands shook so badly that he could hardly hold his fork. After a five hour dinner together on our second date we shut down the place and the waiters left us sitting alone we decided there was something special between us. Five months later he was telling me he loved me. I was surprised as I was not looking for love at my age. I was looking for a wonderful companion and didn't expect that I would be able to fall in love after a very bitter divorce from a man I was married to for over 20 years. This man is the sweetest, kindest, most thoughtful and romantic man I have ever known. I adore him. He has taken my hand gently through all the family introductions, family adjustments and finally our announcement that we were engaged. He has two grown daughters who I love and three grandchildren who I adore. They express their love for me as well so I am blessed. We moved in together four months ago and are now trying to sell the house that he lived in for 20 years with his late wife. She died in the house after a long battle with breast cancer. It wasn't my idea to sell the house, but his. He wants a new start and doesn't want there to be any chance that being in the home where he raised his daughters and where his wife died would interfere with our relationship. He has never been with another woman having been married to his late wife for 30 years. He is new to just about everything and I have displayed great patience and understanding. I am respectful of the memory of his late wife both with him and his family. I have met with the late wife's family and they have been supportive and loving as well. Lately, the issue is that he and his wife never argued let alone communicated. They rarely had sex. From what I hear from he and his daughters she was incessant about the housework and wore the pants in the family. "Mom trained Dad to keep house the way he does..." I am sloppy, an artist, have three dogs and two cats and have a tattoo! Opposites do attract considering the deep love we have both expressed to one another and his enjoying my "edginess." I was always open and honest on the internet featuring my lifestyle and my dogs photo's as we came as a package! He not only knew what he was getting himself into he was attracted to it. We are now moving to a bigger house with a bigger yard so we can keep the dogs. He loves my dogs too, but they have not yet moved in with us in lieu of waiting to move from his current house. Until it sells, my son takes care of my other house including my dogs and all of my belongings. I am lonely for the dogs, feel like a guest in his house and am overwhelmed by the way he runs circles around me in organizing our lives. I mean I love it, but feel terrible when I would just rather sit with him on the sofa and watch a movie when he is instead running around the house doing laundry, paying bills, doing the dishes or mowing the lawn! Last night I got mad and told him to slow down. He gets very upset with me when I get mad at him. He tells me that he and his wife never argued. He says I get above the level of just arguing and when I am expressing my upset I think I am being careful not to upset him! Am I a raging lunatic or is he just too sensitive because he and his late wife never communicated let alone got upset? I want this to work and will do just about anything to keep him happy. BTW We have set a wedding date for next year...

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