[rmd]

Hi: My husband and I got married before a judge. We kept our marriage a secret because we wanted to one day have a traditional wedding with our friends and familes. Now that we are ready to have this traditional wedding, how should we go about the wording of the invitations and vows?

[the_admin]

So, none of your friends and family KNOW that you are married civilly? If they don't, do you ever plan to tell them or are you going forward as you have just been living together and now are having the ceremony? Will this be a church wedding (what religion)?

[rmd]

Thanks for the quick reply.

Our parents and a few of our very close friends know. The majority of our family and friends have not been told. We refrained from informing others, because we had planned to have the traditional wedding with all our families and friends present. We would like to have the church traditional church ceremony and reception. the church is Anglican/Episcopal.


Thanks again. I look forward to your reply.

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Help,

I believe that is would be best to simply proceed as if this is your first wedding. It would be too confusing for most guest otherwise. Talk this over with your clergy member though.

Good luck in the future.

Sincerely,