[kwondering]

I am 56 and have been divorced for 20 years and I am getting married for the 3rd time. (Though neither lasted very long; the first was in my late teens; have had much counseling and growth since then.) His 3rd also, though our friends have no idea because we have each moved to Southern Calif. from other states. We'll have around 75 people, the most important to us are our grown children and grandchildren. I've been reading your posts and it seems I can wear anything that goes with the type of wedding. We are getting married Jun 1 outside at a small winery. The reception is also outside. It will be a garden-type wedding, surrounded by roses in bloom. I know I want to make the most of the garden theme, with colorful flowers on each table. I'm petite, 5'3 1/2 inches, and weigh about 112. A friend of mine was married in a church in Aug. and wore a formal ivory gown. I think I'd rather make the most of color and the garden/winery theme and do something more informal. He'd prefer a suit, though he will wear a tux if I'd like. I'm wondering if a pretty dress would work, or a beautiful suit? Should it be long or short? Is tea-length best? What about sleeves? The wedding is at 4 and the buffet dinner will be afterwards, so it may get cool. Do you have any suggestions on type and colors, as well as on where I can find them? When I look at the wedding dress websites, I've only seen traditional wedding gowns. Thank you so much!

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Kwondering,

A very high quality cocktail dress could work very well in this case. The length could be street or tea length. Of course, you could wear a traditional gown if you wish.

Just choose something that you love in any color that suits you. Really, the sky is the limit these days.

Best wishes,