[randys]

Hello, I'm getting remarried in Feb 06 & have two children from prior marriage. I'm most sure that my ex will disapprove and will not allow them to come to the wedding since we live in another State. My thought is to tell the children together on the phone and then inform the mother of our plans. I'm unable to see the children as often as finances allow and work. I'm paying child support but its never enough. I fully aware that I have no control over my ex's thoughts, feeling, behaviors, & a long list of disapprovals.

I'm seeking ways to tell the children, because I know it will be an adjustment for them to navigate through. Any suggestions would be most appreciated. Thanks Randy

[the_admin]

Is there no way for you to tell the children in person?

[randys]

I'm 4 months into my new job and don't have alot of PTO & with child support my finances restricts me to travel from MN to Seattle, WA. Telling them in person would be ideal in a perfect world but my current situations doesn't allow for it at this time or the very near future. Thanks.

[the_admin]

Randy:

You won't be seeing them at all before this wedding? What are the ages of these kids?

I can understand that money can be tight but this is something that is best told in person so you can be there for any questions that might come up. If there is any way for you to travel or for them to come to you I would strongly urge you to try to make that happen.

If you just can't then I suppose that telephone is the next best thing to being there; or so they say.

[Jill]

I feel this is such an important thing for your children to absorb that (and I know its not a perfect world) you should consider pulling out all the stops to see them and talk face to face.