Difference Between Renewal and Reaffirmation Ceremony

#1 Guest_NBM31_*

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I would like to have a civil ceremony followed by a religious ceremony later. What is the difference between vow renewal and reaffirming and would they use the same wording in the ceremony?

#2 Etiquette Now

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Dear Renewal,

From an etiquette point of view, there really is no difference in the two terms. You would be reaffirming or renewing your vows to each other--basically the same thing. This is best done on a bench mark anniversary if inviting guests, though, as it could appear odd if done too early in the marriage. This is because there is nothing to "renew" or "reaffirm". But, you definitely could have your marriage blessed by the church. This is not a wedding, but a simple ceremony for the church to bless your vows.

Typically, the vows are different for a reaffirmation ceremony. After all, you are already married. So often the couple will create their own vows. Of course, you would have to discuss this with your officiant.

Best wishes,

Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant, Etiquette Now

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Be sure to read our pages on Convalidation in the catholic church and The marriage Blessing. Remember that these services that come later are not weddings so choose the ceremony that's best for you wisely. Many women are sorry they did not wait to have their dream wedding in the church and are surprised to discover they cannot have the big wedding with the gown, gifts and showers. Weddings are for brides, not for those already married.

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